40: Got Peace? The Six Types of Boundaries That Will Help You Reclaim Yourself
Wouldn’t it be nice if people could read your mind? That way, people will know what you’re going through, how you’re feeling, and what your needs are at every single moment. Unfortunately, that isn’t the case. And as well-meaning as your partner, friends, and family are, they just don’t know what’s going on in that head of yours. This is why having healthy boundaries will ultimately lead to happier and more peaceful lives. But setting them can be uncomfortable and downright tricky.
If you struggle with setting and enforcing healthy boundaries that protect your energy, restores your peace, and reclaims your happiness, this episode is for you. Due to popular demand, Zuri is joined by her day-one episode-one guest, Nedra Glover Tawwab. If you need a refresher, Nedra is the founder and owner of the group therapy practice, Kaleidoscope Counseling. She has helped numerous people create healthy relationships by teaching them how to implement boundaries. Nedra is also a licensed therapist, highly sought-after relationship expert, and has over 12 years of experience practicing relationship theory. To add to her list of accolades, Nedra is also the New York Times Bestselling author of the book, “Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself”.
Today, Zuri and Nedra are setting the record straight on boundaries. From why healthy boundaries are vital to our mental and emotional health, to the consequences of not having healthy boundaries in place, Nedra leaves no boundary stone left unturned as she helps you reclaim your peace through establishing your non-negotiables. She emphasizes the importance of speaking up when you’re striving for peace, the difference between porous and rigid boundaries, and how culture and community tend to affect the boundaries we think we have a good grasp on. And if you just don’t know where to begin with setting your boundaries, Nedra dives deep into the six types of boundaries you need to set ASAP.
The truth is, we all need to have boundaries if we want to live healthy, happy, and peaceful lives. If setting and enforcing boundaries feels foreign or intimidating to you, Nedra has your back. Tune in, take notes, and prepare to have your mind blown and your peace restored.
Info About Nedra: Nedra Glover Tawwab is a licensed therapist and sought-after relationship expert. She has practiced relationship therapy for 12 years and is the founder and owner of the group therapy practice, Kaleidoscope Counseling. Every day she helps people create healthy relationships by teaching them how to implement boundaries. Her philosophy is that a lack of boundaries and assertiveness underlie most relationship issues, and her gift is helping people create healthy relationships with themselves and others.
Nedra has a new book called "Set Boundaries, Find Peace".
A Closer Look at the Episode:
[2:34] What is Kaleidoscope Counseling?
[4:12] Why healthy boundaries are so important to our mental and emotional health
[5:33] The results of not having boundaries in place
[8:03] Why speaking up is an attainable way to finding peace
[9:39] The six types of boundaries you need to set ASAP
[14:38] The difference between porous and rigid boundaries
[16:59] How culture and community impact our boundaries
[19:40] One thing to remember about enforcing your boundaries
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