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17: ...Is Your Relationship Toxic AF?! Here’s How to Fix It!

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Toxic relationships: Are you in one? Do you know the signs? Are YOU the toxic one?

In this week’s episode, Zuri goes one-on-one in the signature segment, Real Woman, Real Story -- with Reka Robinson a certified life coach who shares her personal story of being in an emotionally abusive toxic relationship, the steps she took to exit from that dynamic, and the life lessons she learned about being single and being worthy regardless of your relationship status.

Next up, Zuri talks to expert Dr. Jenn Hardy about the warning signs of toxic relationships, how to spot and deal with one-sided relationships, and why people choose to stay in toxic relationships. They also discuss the merits of fixing a toxic dynamic or whether we should cut our losses and walk away, how to implement boundaries with our romantic partners and in our platonic relationships, and finally if we contribute to the toxicity without even knowing it.

The Hot Happy Mess Party Trick of the week:

This week's Party Trick is the new book by, Nedra Glover Tawwab, who you may remember from our FIRST episode of the podcast, 'How To Be Happy.' Her book is called, Set Boundaries, Find Peace: a Guide to Reclaiming Yourself. Nedra provides some simple-yet-powerful ways to establish healthy boundaries in all aspects of life. The book goes on sale on March 16th but is available for pre-order now.




Dr. Jenn Hardy is a licensed psychologist with a private practice in Maryville, Tennessee. She has specialized training in psychodynamic and feminist therapy, attachment theory, and career-related issues. She writes on Instagram about relationships, career issues, resilience, self-compassion, and whatever else is on her mind. You can access her e-courses, sign up for a free newsletter, and find links to media interviews like this one at: | Instagram | Facebook | E-Courses

Real Woman, Real Story

Reka Robinson is called to guide women who need to hear that singleness is not a punishment and you are worthy regardless of your relationship status. She is a certified NLP Life Coach aka the Single Girls Life Coach who helps her clients dig deeper when it comes to self-love and boundaries. She is also the Founder of Single You Academy & the host of Single You the Podcast.⁣

Connect with Reka: | Instagram | Facebook | Facebook Group

Quotes Mentioned:

“The quality of your life is a direct reflection of the quality of the questions you are asking yourself” ― Anthony Robbins

"I have found joy in my solitude." ― Tracee Ellis Ross

1 Corinthians 7

Books To Read:

Set Boundaries, Find Peace | We're Going to Need More Wine | The Purpose Driven Life



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We’re women of all races + backgrounds, united by one mission: living our lives as fully, happily & mindfully as we can.

In the HHM Crew, we value Community. Kindness. A Work Hard, Play Hard Mentality

(she likes to laugh, have fun, and maybe have one vodka shot too many after a long day of getting her AlphaBabe on).

We can't wait for you to start sharing your stories, not just with one another, but also with Z! Remember, this is a safe space, so no topic is off-limits. We just want us to have FUN! We want this space to feel like a long-distance brunch. Y'know? So grab a drink, a snack, pull up a chair, and let's all virtually hang!

Recent episodes: if ya feel like bingeing!

ICYMI: Listen to Episode 9: How to Be Single & (Not Just Pretend to) Love It

ICYMI: Listen to Episode 7: It's 2021! Here’s The KEY to a Happier You!

ICYMI: Listen to Episode 3: Self Love is Sexy AF

Go back to the beginning --> ICYMI: Listen to Episode 1: How to Be Happy


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If you loved this podcast episode, you’ll also love our first episode in our Protect Your Peace Series: Episode #1: How To Be Happy

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Zuri Hall is an Emmy award-winning TV host (Access Hollywood, American Ninja Warrior) and is the executive producer & host of this millennial-focused podcast that will empower women to avoid “best life burnout” through candid conversation, expert panel discussions, and real-life, human interest stories from everyday women.

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