18: ... Let's Get Kinky (The Virgin, The Thrupple, The Sex Expert)
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Are you ready for a very sexy smorgasbord of different perspectives & POVs? We’re breaking down the difference between kinks & fetishes.. whether it’s healthy to save sex for marriage.. and Throuples! Yep, you read that right -- we’re also diving deep into the world of polyamory (and how it’s totally different from being a sister-wife).
Zuri talks to Sex Expert Gigi Engle about the G spot (and other sexy spots); why so many people are saying NO to hook-up culture and embracing celibacy; and how to have great phone sex (minus the awkward vibes...bc, yeah. it can get awk.).
Next in our 'Real Woman, Real Story' segment: Zuri chats with Kay Kay, a 28-year-old virgin who is saving herself for marriage. Kay Kay opens up to Z on the reason she chose this lifestyle; if 'The Wait' ever gets difficult for her; and why she refuses to let purity culture define her decision.
Finally, Z chats with The Trifecta Love -- Kassandra, Carly, and Paoulo -- a committed polyamorous throuple (with 3MIL+ Tik Tok followers!) who live their love out loud by sharing their group love story with the world. They also open up about the difficulty of coming out to their families; confess if they ever struggle with jealousy; and how they let love lead the way in all of their relationships!
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RESOURCES + LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE
Expert
Gigi Engle, is an award-winning feminist author, certified sex coach, sexologist, and sex educator.
As a brand expert with Lifestyle Condoms, she promotes and teaches about pleasure-based sex education, masturbation, and safer sex practices.
Gigi’s work regularly appears in many publications including Cosmopolitan, Marie Claire, Elle Magazine, Teen Vogue, Glamour, and Women's Health. Her articles have been shared over 50 million times, with her top posts reaching over 150 million shares.
In 2019, Gigi was named Journalist of The Year at the Sexual Freedom Awards. Her new book All the F*cking Mistakes is available now.
Connect with Gigi: https://www.missgigiengle.com/ | @gigiengle
Real Woman, Real Story
Kay Kay is the founder and CEO of Kay Kay’s Fashion and the author of the non-fiction book Bully Friends.
Connect with Kay Kay: https://www.kaykaysway.com/ | @kaykaysway92 | @kaykaysfashion
Real Throuple, Real Story
The Trifecta Love | Kassandra, Carly, and Paoulo are a polyamorous throuple sharing their authentic selves and relationship with the world, in hopes of shedding light on love and all its different forms. Their goal is to open up the question and prove that there are different types of love. Just because it’s different or unique, doesn’t mean it’s anything less than what it is. They hope to keep spreading love and understanding with the world.
Connect with The Trifecta: Youtube | Tik Tok | Podcast | Only Fans | Merch
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