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10: ...I Have Commitment Issues, Let's Chat, Attachment Styles

Raise your hand, if you’ve got commitment issues or have the tendency to be passive-aggressive in your relationships. Well, we have the perfect episode for you. This week, Zuri is talking about attachment theory (her favorite topic!) with licensed mental health therapist, Alyssa ‘Lia’ Mancao, and they're digging deep into the four different attachment types, how to discover which one you are, how our childhood/young adult years shape us, and why it truly matters.


Next up, Z has an honest, hilarious, and very vulnerable chat with a real-life couple, who have opposite attachment styles (anxious + avoidant). Newlyweds, Ashlee + Jason open to Zuri about how they’ve navigated from anxious/avoidant styles to a secure place, and they are revealing how they got to such a happy place in their relationship.


Alyssa "Lia" Mancao is a licensed mental health therapist and group practice owner based in Sherman Oaks, California. She is a proud alumna of Cal Poly Pomona and USC. Alyssa specializes in treating anxiety, depression, and trauma as well as helping her clients connect with their inner child. | @alyssamariewellness

Real Couple, Real Story.

Learn more about these newlyweds, checkout Ashlee and Jason's Youtube Channel where you can find relationship tips, travel vlogs, and more of their adventures as a couple! @raye_n_jay

Book Referenced: Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find--and Keep-- Love by Amir Levine and Rachel S. F. Heller

ICYMI: Listen to Bonus Episode: The Craziest Single Years Sh#t We've Ever Done

ICYMI: Listen to Episode 1: How to Be Happy


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Zuri Hall is an Emmy award-winning TV host (Access Hollywood, American Ninja Warrior) and is the executive producer & host of this millennial-focused podcast that will empower women to avoid “best life burnout” through candid conversation, expert panel discussions, and real-life, human interest stories from everyday women.

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